Summary 1
In
the video “Living Large: A Look Inside The Tiny House Movement,” PBS introduces
Dee Williams a small house owner who believes that living in a ‘tiny’ home has
benefited her life economically by saving money on mortgage and power bills.
William believes that her small house ‘fits’ her and that the cultural ethic of
wanting and consuming more as a way of feeling good about your life which she
thinks that people are turning that upside a down and going on with a defiant cultural
trend.
Source:
PBS. "NEED TO KNOW | Living Large: A Look inside the Tiny
House Movement | PBS." YouTube.
YouTube, 31 July 2010. Web. 03 Mar. 2014.
Summary 2
In
the article “How To Share Parenting,” Susan A. Dwyer states that children are
affected more when parents have ongoing problems after divorce or separation
and it is difficult for parents to cover children from such problems. In
addition, Dwyer believes the noncustodial parent may be unwilling to enforce
behavioral limits due to the fear that the child will not want to spend time
with them in the future. Dwyer suggests that parents should provide a secure
and predictable structure for children to create stability in families over
time.
Source:
Dwyer, Susan A. "How to Share Parenting." Family Advocate 33.1 (2010):
4-8. ProQuest. Web. 10 Mar.
2014.
Summary 3
In
the article “Parenting As A “Package Deal”: Relationships, Fertility, and
nonresidents Father Involvement Among Unmarried Parents” Laura Tach explains
how fatherhood has traditionally been viewed as a “package deal” in which a
father’s relationship with his child is dependent on his relationship with the
mother. According to Tach father involvement diminishes after relationships
between un marred parents end producing instability in the household.
Source:
Tach, Laura, Ronald Mincy, and Kathryn Edin.
"PARENTING AS A "PACKAGE DEAL": RELATIONSHIPS, FERTILITY, AND
NONRESIDENT FATHER INVOLVEMENT AMONG UNMARRIED PARENTS*." Demography (pre-2011) 47.1 (2010):
181-204.ProQuest. Web. 10 Mar.
2014.
Impact
Of Shared Custody(1st DFT)
Today
many biological fathers tend to be less involved in their relationships with
their children causing great instability on their lives. During the 1990s, over
80 percent of non-marital births in the United States were from couples that
were intimately involved (Tach). Shared custody is becoming a common trend
disrupting the lives of many children in different aspects. Normally after the
relationships between the unmarried parents finalize research indicates that
fathers’ involvement with children will decline after break up, father roles
may be even more difficult if fathers have other familial obligations, a main
challenge that many un-married parents encounter. Although it is becoming more
common for co-parents not to be married, when these couples separate it seems
to have a greater impact on children since fathers miss out on vital parental
roles, and as a result children encounter behavioral and emotional problems
producing instability in the child’s life disrupting the home space.
It
is fully accepted in our society that both parents need plenty of time with
their children in order to create and maintain a quality relationship. In
addition, men who live with their children most likely develop greater
confidence in their ability to care for the child when the mother is not
present. Shared parenting will only succeed and will only benefit the children
when the parents are cooperative, have minimal or no conflicts, are relatively
will educated and financially well off, and mutually agree to share the
parenting without any intervention by lawyers or judges (Nielsen). With that
being said, only a limited number of parents can agree in terms without outer intervention.
Parent conflicts can have great impact on children, emotionally it can be a
terrible thing to happen to a child, and can often cause stress and
destabilization by living it two different homes. A child can expect negative
consequences to occur without a father, which can have a harmful effect on the
child’s development. Over 40 percent of non-marital relationships end by the
child’s first birthday, and by the time the child is 5 years old, over 60
percent of parents are no longer romantically involved with each other (Center
for Research on Child Wellbeing 2003, 2007).
As
nonresidential father’s involvement with children decreases over time, it
creates a problem since more frequent contact with nonresidential fathers is
generally assumed to be beneficial to children. Men’s involvement with
nonresidential children is interfered by competing obligations to new
relationships and new co-residential children (Guzzo). Although men who have
both co-residential and nonresidential children usually have multi-partnered
fertility (which in many cases arises from fairly common patterns of marital
childbearing, divorce, and childbearing within future marriage), many
nonresidential fathers without co-residential children also have children with
multiple women (Guzzo). The children’s age plays a decisive role as a result of
more time being spent with peers and less time with parents as the child inters
its teen years. Contact between nonresidential fathers and children are more
frequent for younger children and declines with age, particularly during
adolescence.
The
fact of relocating can bring great instability to the child’s life. Separated
parents tend to relocate at a much high rate than intact families with two
biological parents (Austin). A child with separated parents is at a greater
risk to encounter adjustment problems following a residential move. From my own
experiences, I suffered from great instability when relocating to another
states. After being forced to relocate to a different state, I found it
profoundly difficult to adjust to a new home, that I could not simply call
home. The difference among children’s adjustment between intact and single
parent homes is significant, without considering residential mobility. For
example, children from single parent are twice as likely to drop out of high
school. Furthermore, children in a single parent or stepfamilies receive less
encouragement with schoolwork than children living with two biological parents
(Austin).
Work Cited
Cancian, Maria, and Daniel R. Meyer.
"Who Gets Custody?" Demography
(pre-2011) 35.2 (1998): 147-57. ProQuest. Web. 12 Mar. 2014.
Guzzo, Karen Benjamin. "Men's
Visitation With Nonresidential Children." Journal Of Family Issues 30.7 (2009): 921-944.Academic Search Premier. Web. 12 Mar.
2014
Tach, Laura, Ronald Mincy, and Kathryn
Edin. "PARENTING AS A "PACKAGE DEAL": RELATIONSHIPS, FERTILITY,
AND NONRESIDENT FATHER INVOLVEMENT AMONG UNMARRIED PARENTS*." Demography (pre-2011) 47.1 (2010):
181-204.ProQuest. Web. 12 Mar.
2014.
Impact Of Shared Custody(2nd
dft)
Today
many biological fathers tend to be less involved in their relationships with
their children causing great instability in their children’s lives. During the
1990s, over 80 percent of non-marital births in the United States were from
couples that were intimately involved (Tach). Shared custody is becoming a
common trend disrupting the lives of many children in different aspects. Normally
after the relationships between the unmarried parents terminate, research
indicates that fathers’ involvement with children will decline after the break
up. Moreover, the father’s role may be even more difficult if the father has
other familial obligations, which is a challenge that many unmarried parents
encounter. Although it is becoming more common for co-parents not to be
married, when these couples separate it seems to have a greater impact on
children since fathers miss out on vital parental roles. As a result, children
encounter behavioral and emotional problems producing instability in the
child’s life and disrupting the home space.
For
many people in today’s society a home is not home without a mother and a
father. Many people are not as fortunate as others to have both biological
parents form part of their much so valued home space. It is perceived that children
who grow up in homes with a father’s presence are more likely to take positive
roles in raising their own families and establish a more quality home space for
their future kids. However, as trends in society shift it is becoming far more
difficult for these ideologies, attitudes, and values toward father involvement
to continue intact since depending on the child’s situation, it can cause great
disruptions and effect the child perception of home.
It
is a cultural ethic in society that both parents need plenty of time with their
children in order to create and maintain a quality relationship. However, it is
becoming far more common to whiteness these cultural ethics be taken for granted
by fathers who have no intentions of forming a formal family and form an
important part of the child’s home space. In addition, men who live with their
children most likely develop greater confidence in their ability to care for
the child when the mother is not present. Shared parenting will only succeed
and will only benefit the children when the parents are cooperative, have
minimal or no conflicts, are relatively well educated and financially well off,
and mutually agree to share the parenting without any intervention by lawyers
or judges (Nielsen). With that being said, only a limited number of parents can
agree without outer intervention.
Moreover, a child under shared parenting is forced to
continuously go back and forth from the mother’s home to the father’s home,
causing the child to have trouble in identifying their real home. Two-parent homes
can have significant impacts on children as it can create less emotional
support, as well as harsher and inconsistent discipline. In addition, two
different parent homes removes the consistency in a child’s life by making it
difficult for the child to adjust over and over again to their parents
expectations. For example, what can be permitted in one house may not be
allowed in the other house. Children often do not have the sense of feeling at
home because they keep on moving from one home to another, creating a sense of
instability in the home environment. Two homes also means that everything has
to be doubled such as clothing, furniture, and other personal expenses which
can often lead to financial problems. Parent conflicts can have great impact on
children, conflicts can expose the child to be seriously tormented emotionally,
and can often cause stress and destabilization to the child by living in two
different homes. A child can expect negative consequences to occur without a
father, which can have a harmful effect on the child’s development. Over 40
percent of non-marital relationships end by the child’s first birthday, and by
the time the child is 5 years old, over 60 percent of parents are no longer
romantically involved with each other (Center for Research on Child Wellbeing
2003, 2007).
As
nonresidential father’s involvement with children decreases over time, it
creates a problem since more frequent contact with nonresidential fathers is
generally assumed to be beneficial to children. By contrast, residential
fathers who are present and involved continuously in the child’s home space
during child development can increase the possibilities of more positive and
behavioral outcomes later in the child’s life. Therefore, a residential father
would suit the child’s life better than a nonresidential father, which can
serve as a superior home environment compared to a child missing a father in
the household because of the positive effects on the well-being of the child it
brings. Furthermore, men’s involvement with nonresidential children is
interfered by competing obligations to new relationships and new co-residential
children (Guzzo). Although men who have both co-residential and nonresidential
children usually have multi-partnered fertility (which in many cases arises
from fairly common patterns of marital childbearing, divorce, and childbearing
within future marriage), many nonresidential fathers without co-residential
children also have children with multiple women (Guzzo). The children’s age
plays a decisive role as a result of more time being spent with peers and less time
with parents as the child enters its teen years, the more less the father is
involved the higher the chances are for the child to be involved around drug
and alcohol influences. Contact between nonresidential fathers and children are
more frequent for younger children and declines with age, particularly during
adolescence.
The
fact of relocating can bring great instability to the child’s life. Separated
parents tend to relocate at a much high rate than intact families with two
biological parents (Austin). A child with separated parents is at a greater
risk to encounter adjustment problems following a residential move. From my own
experiences, I suffered from great instability when relocating to another
states. After being forced to relocate to a different state, I found it profoundly
difficult to adjust to a new home, that I could not simply call home. The
difference among children’s adjustment between intact and single parent homes
is significant, without considering residential mobility. For example, children
from single parent are twice as likely to drop out of high school. Furthermore,
children in a single parent or stepfamilies receive less encouragement with
schoolwork than children living with two biological parents (Austin).
Although it is becoming more common for
parents not to be married, when these couples separate it seems to have a
greater impact on children since fathers miss out on vital parental roles. Today
the modern day father comes in various forms. The cultural ethic that defines
the modern day father is no longer always the traditional married man and head
of a single family. For many children the father plays an important role in
their concept of home, but as shifts occur in our society and father
interaction with children varies, it can often lead the child to leave out
accustomed ideologies that formed part of the concept of home. As a result,
children encounter behavioral and emotional problems producing instability in
the child’s life and disrupting the home space
Work Cited
Cancian, Maria,
and Daniel R. Meyer. "Who Gets Custody?" Demography (pre-2011) 35.2 (1998): 147-57. ProQuest. Web. 12 Mar. 2014.
Guzzo, Karen
Benjamin. "Men's Visitation With Nonresidential Children." Journal Of Family Issues 30.7
(2009): 921-944.Academic Search Premier.
Web. 12 Mar. 2014
Tach, Laura,
Ronald Mincy, and Kathryn Edin. "Parenting As A "Package Deal":
Relationships, Fertility, And Nonresidential Father Involvement Among Unmarried
Parents*." Demography
(pre-2011) 47.1 (2010): 181-204.ProQuest. Web.
12 Mar. 2014.
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